I miss you

You're the love of my life,
the one I never thought I'd find,
I think about you always,
I can't get you off my mind,

the days go by,
and you're not here,
I long for the moment,
when I can hold you near,

time drags on,
ever so slow,
I love you my darling,
and I need you so,

I wish you were here,
holding me close,
the warmth of your touch,
is what I miss the most,

I lie here in bed,
thinking of you,
I never imagined,
I could feel so blue,

these thoughts that I have,
they cut like a knife,
because I miss you so much,
the love of my life

Flowers of love

Love is like a bouquet of flowers,

So many different hues,

Lovely and soft,

Each petal brand new.



They must be treated delicately,

For the stems will break,

These are needed to be strong,

Or any strife they can't take.



Each day opening up a little more,

With the warmth of the sun,

This is how a true love,

Will have begun.



In time the fields are full,

Overflowing with beautiful flowers,

Softly flowing back and forth,

Gentle summer showers.

Written & Submitted By:

© Janice Marie

Life without friendship

Life without friendship....

is like the dawn without the sun.

Life without friendship....

is like the sky without the moon

when the evening has begun.

Life without friendship....

is like a rose without rain.

Life without friendship....

just wouldn't be the same.

Lifewithout friendship....

is like a ship without a sea.

Life without friendship....

just could not be

without a friend like you for me.

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I Cannot Imagine Life Without Your Friendship!

50 Inspirational Quotes

"Think like a man of action, and act like a man of thought."

- Henri L. Bergson

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do the something that I can do."

- Helen Keller

"Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough."

- Josh Billings

"Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there"

- Will Rogers

"Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning."

- Mahatma Gandhi

"You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore."

- Christopher Columbus

"To a brave man, good and bad luck are like his left and right hand. He uses both."

- St Catherine of Siena

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we took so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened up for us"

- Helen Keller

"We don't see the things the way they are. We see things the way WE are."

- Talmund

"Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don't have any problems, you don't get any seeds."

- Norman Vincent Peale

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

- Dr Wayne Dayer

"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem."

- Theodore Rubin

"Pessimist : A person who says that O is the last letter of ZERO, instead of the first letter in word OPPORTUNITY."

- Anonymous

"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."

- Thomas A Edison

"Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting"

- Elizabeth Bibesco

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present."

- B. Olatunji

"When you get to the end of the rope, tie a knot and hang on."

- Franklin D Roosevelt

"Your attitude, not your aptitude, determines your altitude."

- Zig Ziglar

"If you're going through hell, keep going."

- Winston Churchill

"The secret to success is to start from scratch and keep on scratching."

- Dennis Green

"Champions aren't made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill."

- Muhammad Ali

"Most of the important things in the world have been accompanied by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."

- Dale Carnegie

"So many of our dreams at first seems impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable."

- Christopher Reeve

"Hard work spotlights the character of people. Some turn up their sleeves. Some turn up their noses, and some don't turn up at all."

- Sam Ewing

"There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there's virtually no competition."

- Steven J Ross

"Our greatest glory is never in failure, but in rising every time we fall."

- Confucious

"Many of life's failures are people who had not realized how close they were to success when they gave up."

- Thomas A Edison

"The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing."

- Stephen Covey

"Efficiency is doing things right. Effectiveness is doing the right things."

- Peter Drucker

"Do you know what happens when you give a procrastinator a good idea? Nothing!"

- Donald Gardner

"Success is what you attract by the person you become."

- Jim Rohn

"You have to 'Be' before you can 'Do' and 'Do' before you can 'Have'.

- Zig Ziglar

"You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people to get what they want."

- Zig Ziglar

"The test we must set for ourselves is not to march alone but to march in such a way that others wish to join us."

- Hubert Humphrey

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus when the limo breaks down."

- Oprah Winfrey

"Formal education will make you a living. Self education will make you a fortune."

- Jim Rohn

"It isn't what the book costs. It's what it will cost you if you don't read it."

- Jim Rohn

"You must be the change you want to see in the world."

- Mahatma Gandhi

"The future has several names. For the weak, it is the impossible. For the fainthearted, it is the unknown. For the thoughtful and valiant, it is the ideal."

- Victor Hugo

"There is nothing more genuine than breaking away from the chorus to learn the sound of your own voice."

- Po Bronson

"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."

- Waldo Emerson

"Use what talents you possess, the woods will be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best."

- Henry van Dyke

"Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric."

- Bertrand Russell

"History will be kind to me, for I intend to write it."

- Winston Churchill

"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life's about creating yourself."

- George Bernard Shaw

"Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance towards the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vintage point."

- Harold B Melchart

"The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach."

- Benjamin Mays

"More often in life, we end up regretting the chances in life that we had, but didn't take them, than those chances that we took and wished we hadn't."

- Anonymous

"An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie, for an excuse is a lie guarded."

- Pope John Paul I

"Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don't wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom."

- Earl Shoaf

How to Cope with Depression

Depression is a terrible affliction in our society. Approximately 16% of the population have suffered from depression at least once in their lives and it is expected that by the year 2020, it will be the second leading cause of disability behind heart disease. Although medications are often prescribed to treat depression, you may want to explore other options before taking this route. However, if you are currently suffering acutely, you should not feel as though you need to wait to seek a psychiatrist for a consultation.

Steps

1. Determine if you really are depressed, and what the problem is. Do you lack motivation? Do you have trouble enjoying things that you used to? Do you cry a lot? Does it seem that nothing is really worth doing? Do you feel that your life is meaningless? If so, it is possible that are sinking into the psychological quicksand of clinical depression.



2. Get plenty of sleep In the modern world, there is an increasing problem of people not getting enough sleep. Practice good sleep hygiene and try to get at least eight hours. Depression and anxiety of any sort can interfere with sleep, so this may or may not be possible.



3. Get out of bed in the morning. If this is something you are struggling with, ask a friend to call you in the morning to make sure you are awake.



4. Exercise. A recent study showed exercise to be as effective as Zoloft (a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor or SSRI) in treating depression. Exercise is very good for body and mind. Depression can make it hard to work up the motivation and energy to do it, but it is well worth a try. You may find long walks easier than other forms of exercise - put one foot in front of the other, and walk as far as you are able. You might work up to even 1 or 2 hours every day, but start off with shorter walks. Even if you can only manage a few minutes to start, that is still a good starting point.



5. Watch your favorite comedy, talk with people who make you laugh, visit your childhood hangouts or do anything that helps you remember happier times.



6. Think about happy thoughts. Focus on the details.



7. Go out and do something you enjoy. Buy yourself something nice, get a new haircut, or eat a good meal.



8. To get your mind off your own problems try to think of some way (big or small) you can help someone else.



9. Talk to friends or anyone who will give you support. If you’re feeling really down, have them make a list of your best qualities.



10. Find positive outlets and channels for your emotions: music, writing, whatever.



11. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Compare yourself to you at your lowest point in the past and think about what’s better now. Pat yourself on the back for it. If you think you’re at your lowest point ever, then imagine one small thing (the tiniest thing you can think of) that you know you can make better. And then move on from there.



12. Don’t obsess about it or be hard on yourself if you still feel depressed or aren’t happy. Nothing’s more depressing than being angry at yourself for being depressed.



13. Change your life. Often times depression results from a deep-rooted desire to be in a different situation than you are right now. If you don’t like your parents, move out of your house. If you don’t like your city, move to a different one. If you don’t like your job, find a new one.



14. Avoid poisonous people. Although you may show your unhappiness by acting depressed, others may reveal it through negativity, treating others badly, exercising power over others, insulting others, etc. Also avoid other depressed people. Depression is contagious. It may be hard to find happy people who are willing to help you out of your funk, but it’s worth it.



15. Read the Bible and pray if you’re Christian. The Bible offers anwsers to life questions. And if you pray, god will help you. Pray every day, and even if it doesn’t work for several months, continue to pray. Don’t think it’s the end of the world. Your depression won’t be forever unless you have faith in God. Eventually you’ll start feeling less pain on your shoulders!



16. Seek counseling. High school counselors and University counselors are paid the same amount no matter how many people they see, so they have no incentive to keep you coming back to them.



17. Seek medical advice from a trusted family doctor if you have persistent depression. A doctor may prescribe an anti-depressant if appropriate. However, keep in mind that it may be more appropriate to seek the help of a psychiatrist, as family doctors are not as equipped to correctly diagnose and treat clinical depression, or to distinguish between it and disorders which may display similar symptoms but require different treatment.



18. Diet & Nutrion: Ensure that you are including in your diet healthy foods and proper liquids. Too often than not we either neglect eating all together when we are depressed as well as drinking fluids or we eat too much of our favorite manufactured, chemically engineered foods with no nutrional value as well as inadvertantly robbing us of our much needed nutrients to survive all the same with drinking too much of our favorite sodas, coffees, ‘fake’ juice like drinks or turning to alcohol to ease our depressed mood. The depressed person (testimony of personal experience) doesn’t have to make drastic changes to their diet but just adding in a few will make a world of difference and the effects are amazingly positive and instantaneous. Add in some of your favorite fruits or salads. Try ice cold water with a bit of lemon if you have trouble drinking water. Even one glass of water is helpfull and instead of sodas try your favorite sports drink (i.e. Gatorade, Propel, etc.) these alone will replenish your lost electrolytes that your body must have and as mentioned earlier. The results will be instant and you’ll be amazed wondering why you didn’t do it sooner.

Tips

• Keep Breathing. Remind yourself—if you’re breathing, you’re winning. There is a path out of your depression, but step one is always: Keep Breathing.
  
  
• If you are part of a religious group, talk to your fellow members or leader for guidance.
  
  
• Spend one hour out in the sunlight every day.
  
  
• Avoid depressing movies, songs, art, and especially avoid depressing people.
  
  
• If you have thoughts of suicide or self-injury, get professional help immediately. If nothing’s working, avoiding help can only be detrimental.
  
  
• Keep your surrounding warm and well-lit during the day. Prefer a well-lit room or open window curtains/blinds during the day.
  
  
• Stay busy with work that keeps your brain occupied. A recent study has proven that when you are wholly focused on the task at hand, you are physically unable to worry or think about your troubles. And staying productive is the best way to prove to yourself that you’re not worthless and things can really change.
  
  
• In some women, depression may be caused (or worsened) by low hormone levels, most commonly progesterone. Progesterone helps keep serontonin levels from dropping too low, and low serotonin can cause depression. Doctors can test for low progesterone and prescribe it (though many doctors are unaware of the link with depression); it is even available without prescription, which gives you an idea how safe it is when used according to directions. Indications that a depression may be progesterone related are: symptoms get worse in the two weeks before menstruation, during perimenopause/menopause, or after giving birth. Anxiety-depression is most commonly seen, sometimes accompanied by severe mood swings and insomnia; some women may get more headaches/migraines. NOTE: synthetic progestins such as Provera, medroxyprogesterone, DepoProvera, and birth control pills can make these symptoms worse instead of better; when I refer to progesterone I mean that exact natural hormone specifically, not its “substitutes”. Progesterone is available as Progest cream (a good brand) without prescription, and as Prometrium capsules with prescription; compounding pharmacies also make various dose forms (such as Progesterone 50 mg/ml Lotion, compounded).
  
  
• With all of the advice given here: REMEMBER that it does not have to be done in drastic measures. One glass of water. One apple. 15min in the sun. A half hour or more earlier to bed than before or half hour or more earlier getting out of bed. A short walk to the….? end of the block, walking a little further into the store by parking farther away… just any of these common sense activities and lifestyle additions/changes that EVERYONE needs to do in order to be more healthy & active will help the average person but more dramatically, will help the depressed person.
  
  
• If you have problems to grant yourself things or if you even think, you might not be worth to live on, try to think of yourself when you were a child. Don´t you think, this child would have deserved all the benevolence in the world for its future?
  
  
• Try and go outside. Take a walk and think about why you’ve became different than the person you originally were.Go over the good things in your life that you have.(ex. You have the ability to walk,breathe, able to see the world and that you have the power to change it).
  
  
  1. Listen to positive music. Listen to music that you can relate to but has a more positive moral to the particular song. In its own way it gives you support and comfort you may lack else were.
     
     

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Grow old with me, my darling

Grow old with me, my darling stay

Beside me as we walk our way

Through life's uncertainties. Be my light

Through stormy days and dark of night.



You are my half, you make me whole,

You are the mirror of my soul.

Without you, life would make no sense.

Between us there is no pretense.



You know my thoughts before I speak.

You lend me strength when I am weak.

You tell me things I need to hear.

And, even then, you hold me dear.



Grow old with me, my darling stay.

I need you more and more each day.

Grow old with me, my heart implores.

We'll live in love forevermore.

How To Be Happy

Everybody gets moody. That’s why people go on diets, spend too much money for clothes, or suck up to popular people - because they think it will make them happy! Instead of striving for happiness it often comes to us! However, the more you get to know people around you, the more you will see what makes even the happiest people crazy.

Steps

1. Keep your thoughts reasonable and think positively. If you catch yourself thinking that things aren’t going to work out, then think again. Remember that most things work out better than you fear - so imagine that your fears are ungrounded and success is real. Rather than thinking of the problems and getting desperate, imagine the best outcome and then work out what you need to do to make that happen. Follow your instincts. If the thoughts you are thinking are not giving you that ‘good feeling’, then think about something else that will make you feel good in that moment. Observe your thoughts and ideas consistently throughout the day (diary/journal if possible). Sometimes this may not be as easy as you think if you are stuck in a “negative” train of thought and your brain chemicals are getting fired up and forming “anxiety or anger” thoughts. Anxiety, fear and anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on something else. This will dissipate the rush of chemicals that are making you feel bad. Immediately then go back to picturing scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you feel ‘good’.


2. Be a big giver. It is possible giving time and resources to others who need them will contribute more to your happiness and creative outlook on life than almost anything else. The key to successful family relationships is giving time to others. Give your time and give yourself up for friends, family and others who may be in need. Spend time with your family and other positive people in your life, and recognize they are your most valuable worldly asset. The happiest days of our lives, when we really dig down deep, is when we see the smile on the face of a child who has nothing and you have given them something of immense value to them such as reading them a book, it means you love them enough to give of your time. Serve at a rescue mission and you will learn the meaning of “I cried because I had no shoes and then I saw a man who had no legs.” Give and it will be given unto you. Isn’t it true the happiest people we know are typically the ones who for some foolish reason are always ready to give you the clothes off their back? And frequently it is true that the most discontented people are the ones who are selfish, demanding, and inconsiderate of others. So form the habit of being a Big Giver and you will know one of the secrets to successful happy living. In media, common terms include: ‘you are what you radiate’, ‘you live what you give’ and ‘everything comes back to you’.


3. Don’t lie to yourself- see everything for exactly what it is. You have friends and family who love you. Learn how to be thankful. Think of all the things you have to be happy about. Relax, calm down, take things slower. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy today, and look to the future. If we are prepared to take ownership for the past and accept that everything that’s happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we are - the battle is half won.


4. Lighten up. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Try not to over analyze things. Stress can cause many mental, physical, and spiritual problems in your life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are out of your control. Learn to recognize these things and if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go. Take time to laugh at yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can take things, the happier your life will be. It wouldn’t be life if some bad things don’t happen.


5. Be yourself. You can’t please everybody. Much criticism is caused by people who are discontented with themselves, not you. Comparing yourself to others is rarely accurate in your personal life. In the first place, no one knows what other people are going through. More importantly, when you compare yourself to other people, you often see yourself on the “short end”. See how this is not helpful to you or your goals. One way to get ‘in touch with yourself’ is through journaling, diaries or (lately) blogs. Your goal may be to open up completely to yourself and learn to be your best friend by knowing that the truth (to yourself) will set you free from fear! Practice self-acceptance - or learn to transform from mistakes. Find ways to enjoy things you are uncomfortable with. You’ll respect yourself for getting through challenges, and that self-respect will make you happy.


6. Make a scheduled time every day for relaxation. This is a good time to go over any therapy that you’re working on. Having a “relaxation/meditation” time or a “quiet time” every day strengthens you, allows the stress and tension in your life to evaporate, and keeps you more in a positive frame of mind.


7. Get a job you love. Some research says 80% of people dislike their jobs! Having a job that makes you look forward to your day when you wake up in the morning is important to a happy, fulfilled life. Making special time to enjoy interests, hobbies, and family, makes life happier.


8. Develop a strong relationship with your family. That includes trust. If you are in an abusive family, you must find a way to stop the abuse and that may include separation. If you want a stronger relationship with your family, you’re going to need to be honest with them. Tell your family about your life and don’t insult them - it hurts them just as much as it hurts you to be insulted.


9. Choose the right companion. Get involved with activities that reflect who you are, and get to know people who like the things you do. When forming relationships with new people, take things slow.


10. Choose your friends carefully. Nearly everyone needs someone who cares for them and treats them well. If you have friends who are treating you badly, or are not supportive of you and your goals to improve your life, then ditch them and find friends that do care about you. If you can’t find any friends like that in your current circumstances, then look elsewhere. If you’re feeling sad, there’s nothing like going out with your friends to make you feel better. Surround yourself with friends who are positive, encouraging, and helpful. We all need this continuing, positive encouragement to make solid positive progress in life.


11. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself. Volunteer at a hospital or be a part of a program, which takes care of patients in some way. When you leave the hospital, you will be so much happier knowing that you’ve done something meaningful, something someone else can appreciate. (mentioned above).


12. Wish the best for others and mean it. It is so easy to be jealous and petty and forget to celebrate the good fortune of your peers, friends and family.


13. Keep learning. Whether it is a new hobby or a new dance, just keep learning something that interests you. Just find a new interest and go for it! It will give you something to keep you occupied, and a new outlook on life.


14. Set goals. Live up to them. When you accomplish a goal, it’s a great feeling. If you put all your failures down to other people, you put yourself in their power. Take responsibility for when things go wrong in your life, and do things different next time.


15. Be healthy. Give your body and mind what it most needs in order to function in an “optimal” way. “Optimal” in this case means being the healthiest you can be, and the most balanced you can be. Eat healthy, with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. Get plenty of exercise.


16. Strive for long term goals rather than short term satisfaction. It’s very easy to gain short term satisfaction, a quick high, a fast relief from your current problems (such as drugs, alcohol, sex). But it is what it is, a “short term” satisfaction, its effects die out very soon, leaving you again with this empty feeling. Set long term goals, set goals which take time, thought, and effort to achieve. This will make you continually work towards improving yourself bit by bit and will give you the satisfaction of bringing a permanent change in your life.

Tips

• Try thinking of a creative vow and write it down. Make it something like: I vow to give at least one compliment to someone each day and I’ll try to control my anger by counting in my head before reacting.




• If you have problems saying your feelings and opinions to other people, learn the techniques of self-assertion, rather than using anger or avoidance by holding your feelings and thoughts inside you.




• Take up a spiritual practice. Research shows that people who meditate have a somewhat detached approach to the problems of this life, and are calmer, happier and more contented than usual. Turning to a higher power, closing your eyes and thinking of artistic images, doing deep breathing, etc. can give you a sense of peace.




• Try to make someone else happy and you will feel happy for achieving something!




• Research suggests that happy people have a simple mental strategy towards life. When they think about something good that happened to them, they explore how they personally contributed to that good feeling and feel happy about themselves.




• Listen to music that makes you feel good. When you wake up, put on some uplifting / upbeat music.




• Be honest with yourself. Is there something that is keeping you from being happy - an addiction, a bad habit, or insecurity? Acknowledge it carefully first - then take action to change it!




• Smile! It’s contagious and takes less effort than frowning. Stressing about things out of your control rarely makes things ‘better’.




• Get the correct amount of sleep every night. This varies depending on age, gender and exercise - but too little or too much is hard on your body. Practice good sleep hygiene




• When you receive a compliment from others, accept it and say “thank you”, with a smile.




• The true key to happiness is acceptance - learning to be grateful for what you have. A lot of people know it but don’t keep it in their minds. Comparing your life with others is dangerous. Accept the gifts you have and know that no one is better than or less than anyone else.




• Make new friends and communicate with them. Talk to them about your life and Listen to them talk about their life.




• Get out of the house - hang out with positive people, do something outdoors, visit a park… Variation in your routine will break up monotony and relieve boredom.




• Even in the most terrible times, do not turn to alcohol, drugs, internet, or anything else that is addictive, abusive to the health of you or others. Bad habits grow like weeds - they are easy to get, but hard to get rid of. Many addictive ’solutions’ can make your problems much worse.




• Keep a “Gratitude Journal”. Every day write down a few things that you are thankful for and then review what you have written in past entries. It’s a great way to remind yourself to be thankful for what you have and to boost your mood! For extra challenge, find creative ways to give back to these situations or people.




• Remember a happy thought is ‘creative’ and ‘powerful’. A negative thought ‘destroys’ and reduces power. Find out where you would rather keep your mind.




• Create something: some artwork, make a scrapbook of pictures, sing your heart out, dance manically until your feet and body give way or perhaps cook a delicious meal for people you love.




• Learn how to feel and experience all your different senses in the best possible way: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell (relaxation & ‘full minded’ meditation practice).




• It is always good to live in the moment-if you have a big stresser coming up, you may be really worked up about it. For example, if you are at Cedar Point for the day, but are too worried that you failed your Algebra exam, you may be too nervous to enjoy your ride on the Raptor. Just put off worrying until you have access to your grades. Often times you get too worked up about it and realize that you got a B.




• Never ever be bored: always have something to do, somebody to talk to or hang out with. Listen to music and dance your heart out. Live your life the way you want to. Not somebody elses version of living, but instead, your own. Be yourself, no matter what. That’s the most important thing.

Warnings

• Happiness begins from within. If you don’t accept what you have or who you are, then you will never be truly happy with anyone else.
  
  
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Top 10 Anti-Aging Foods

Aging and food are related. Foods play an important role in helping to fight the signs of aging. Did you know that some foods are good for anti-aging? Different types of foods have different nutrients that can help us to sustain youth. Therefore it is very important to watch what you eat to ensure that you eat foods that can help you look young and feel young. You can feel the difference by looking at your skin, whether it is smooth or with wrinkles. So eating the right food can help you halt the signs of aging thus making you look younger for a longer time.

There are many categories of foods. Surprisingly, there is a category of foods known as superfoods. How do we define superfoods? Superfoods are foods that contain high amount of Essential Fatty Acids, antioxidants and fiber. However, superfoods may contain one or more of the nutrients. Studies shown that there are particular superfoods can reduce levels of cholesterol, lower the risk of heart diseases and ensure organs are functioning properly. The EFAs, antioxidants and fiber are able to provide sufficient nutrients for the body so that cells are able to repair itself and keep the digestive system healthy apart from erasing wrinkles.

Scientists have narrowed down the superfoods to the top ten superfoods that are proven to be fully beneficial. They are green foods, barley, acai, allium family, beans or lentils, sprouts, hot peppers, buckwheat, yogurt or kefir and nuts or seeds. These are the top superfoods that have high level of EFAs, antioxidants and fiber that are scinetifically proven against all other types of foods in the laboratories.

Green foods have the power to lower the risk of getting cancers, lower the cholesterol levels and reduce the high blood pressure. Barley is the best source for fiber and it is useful in helping to regulate the level of blood sugar. Acai is full of antioxidants and EFAs. The allium family include garlic, onions, chives, shallots and leeks that have very powerful antioxidants for better liver functions. Beans and lentils are rich in antioxidants and have low GI. Sprouts are rich in protein and vitamin C.

Hot peppers on the other hand are full of antioxidants and also capsaicinoids that is anti-cancer compund. Buckwheat is not truely grain but it is healthier than rice, corn and wheat. Yogurt or kefir have live cultures that promote good health. Last but not least the nuts and seeds have EFAs to ensure healthy skin and is one the great superfoods. These are extremely powerful superfoods, otherwise they would not be in this group of superfoods.

The good thing about these superfoods is that they are not expensive and not difficult to find in local stores and supermarkets, thus you have easy access to all these foods. The price is affordable and it is all natural. To look good and feel young, you don’t have to waste tons of money buying beauty products that are chemically produced. So, you don’t have to consume poison to sustain youth but with natural foods you can achieve the same results and perhaps even better than dietary supplements.

So there you have it, the list of the top ten superfoods you should be eating more in your daily meals while cutting down on the others so that you will look and feel younger, live a healthy life, have firmer skin, no wrinkles and definitely, no signs of aging at all. Best of all it is a natural way.

Written By: Susan T.G William

Top 8 Foods to Look & Feel Younger

To keep healthy, strong and younger, in parallelism to age growing, people needs different nutrition. Metabolisms, concentration ability, bone mass, and the endurance against diseases will be dropped in the middle age of 30’s. Some dropping causes are hormonal changes and free radicals attack. And the good news, most of these dropping could be corrected by eating good foods.

In facts, there are so many conditions related to the aging. Obesity, coronary, cancer, osteoporosis and diabetes also related to the foods. The nutritionist said the most effective arm containing hundred of nutrients is food; include antioxidant to avoiding free radical attack influences. These are the great foods and should be consumed to keep strong and healthy.

1. Sardines

Omega-3 fatty acid could help for depression preventing and brain membranes damage attacked by free radical and causing dementia. Fish is the best Omega-3 resource which has low calorie, and high protein content, good calcium and vitamin D resource.

2. Green Tea

In the past, research about the anti cancer strengths of green tea focused to the antioxidant. But the newest research said that the green tea has useful for body system detoxification. Chemical contents inside green tea working to paralyze the carcinogen that increases DNA damage inside cells in the liver.

3. Spinach

This vegetable has folic acid fully, a kind of vitamin B which can help to prevent heart attack. Spinach consists of very high antioxidant and can prevent and/or neurons damage recovery increased by aging. Spinach can also prevent macular degeneration, an eye disease related to aging. It is possible to eat them raw or cooked but eat both are the best way.

4. Broccoli

Eat 7 ~ 10 kinds of fruit and vegetable everyday to keep healthy and delay some aging effects are the best way to do. Some of them and broccoli are superstars. Beside antioxidant, vitamin A and D, broccoli is a good vegetarian calcium resource. And it has isothiocyanate, an anti cancer compounds.

5. Blueberry

The antioxidant strength of this super berry can be indicated by the dark color itself. Blueberry can be connected to the people concentration improvement as well as spinach, and indicates promising to prevent brain degeneration caused by aging.

6. Walnut

It was another omega-3 fatty acid alternative resource. Walnut excelling all kind of bean and can prevent heart disease. The unique antioxidant inside walnut is playing important role for people’s health.

7. Chickpea

Chickpea also called garbanzo bean. It has good fiber resource, maintaining blood glucose levels stabilities and can help to prevent diabetes type 2. Bean chemical contents called saponin which can increase immune system and decrease cholesterol levels.

8. Yogurt

Yogurt is a high calcium and low fat milk product. It could prevent osteoporosis, obesities, hypertension and colon cancer. 2 ~ 3 times non-fat yogurt consumption everyday are the best way.

Article Provided By: UltimateHealthyCare

Just for today

Warm heart

It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.



Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship- and find out you still care for that person.



A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.



When the door of happiness closes, another opens but oftentimes we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.




The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.



It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.




Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.



There are things you'd love to hear that you would never hear from the person whom you would like to hear them from, but don't be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from his heart.




Never say goodbye if you still want to try - never give up if you still feel you can go on - never say you don't love a person anymore if you can't let go.



Love comes to those who still hope although they've been disappointed- to those who still believe although they've been betrayed, need to love those who still love although they've been hurt before.



It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone - but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.



Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem
bright. Hope you find the one that makes you smile.



There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! Hope you dream of that special someone.



Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.



May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy and enough money to buy me gifts.



Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person, too.



A careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.



The beginning of love is to let those we love be just themselves, and not twist them with our own image - otherwise, we love only the inflection of ourselves we find in them.



The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.



Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.



Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.



The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.



When you were born, you were crying and everyon around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

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Without You

WITHOUT YOU

When you're not here,
something's not quite right.
It's like the stars and moon,
without the night.

It's something strange,
that I can't explain.
It's like Tarzan,
without Jane.

It's like peanut butter,
without the jelly.
It's like Santa Claus,
without his belly.

It's like a joke,
that isn't funny.
It's like Easter,
without the Bunny.

It's like Grandma's gravy,
without the lumps.
It's like a camel,
without any humps.

It's like a present,
without a bow.
It's like a planted seed,
that doesn't grow.

It's like a king,
without a crown.
It's like a circus,
without a clown.

It's like the birds,
without the bees.
Without you,
I'm just not me.

10 Ways to Live Longer

Eventually, we will all have to leave this earthly life behind us. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t maximize the time you have here. Backed by studies, here are some proven tips to extend your life:

1. Sleep Well. Don’t oversleep or be sleep deprived. According to a February 2002 study in the Archives of General Psychiatry people sleeping more than 8 hours per day had a significantly higher death rate than normal. That doesn’t mean that you deprive yourself either. People sleeping less than 4 hours also had a high death rate. People who slept between 6 and 7 hours lived the longest.

2. Be Positive. According to August 2002 issue of Mayo Clinic Proceedings, people who had a positive outlook as appose to pessimists had a 50% decrease risk of early death. Those who are positive about life handle stress and life situations better. Optimists also have lower blood pressure which is the result how they react to stress and adversities.

3. Have More Spousal Sex. Couples who do are generally less stressed, happier, and better rested. All these factors contribute to a lower blood pressure reading. An April 2004 Journal of the American Medical Association found that “high ejaculation frequency was related to decreased risk of total prostate cancer.” Cheating has the opposite effect, as it will definitely add more stress to you life. Stress = shorter life so stay faithful.

4. Have a Pet. People with dogs were shown to require less visits to their physicians. This could be due to fact that owning pets tends to decrease loneliness and depression, encouraging laughing and exercise. According to a study lead be Erica Friedmann heart attack victims who have pets live 12% longer than the people that did not.

5. Get a VAP Test. Cholesterol tests to detect heart disease has shown to be not as reliable as you may think. Half of all heart attack victims shows normal levels of cholesterol. A better test to take is the VAP test developed by the Birmingham, Ala.-based lab Atherotech. They have shown to detect 90% of heart attack disease patients. It’s important to get this test early as heart disease is cumulative, and often could be managed or corrected more easily at early stages. This is a simple blood test that could be done at most doctors’ offices.

6. Be Rich. Easily said than done right? If you don’t fit this category, strive for it. Keep your finances in check and don’t overspend. Money problems will add stress, which will shorten your life. It will also limit your access to life extending tools. Never less, The National Center for Health Statistics shows that 24% of families with income below $20,000 are “limited” by chronic disease. Whereas, only 6% of families with an income above $75,000 are affected. Possible explanations could be the fact that the rich have better access to health care, food, housing, and safer neighborhoods.

7. Stop Smoking. This one is obvious. According to findings from a study that appeared in the July 2003 issue of Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers and Prevention, middle age men who are long term heavy smokers, are at a higher risk of developing aggressive forms of prostate cancer than men who have never smoked. The Archives of Gerontology and Geriatrics study also states that cigarette smoking has been clearly linked to the most common causes of death in the elderly. The study states “Smoking is–for all but some exceptional subjects–incompatible with successful aging and compromises life expectancy even in extreme longevity,”.

8. Subdue Your Anger. Angry people live shorter lives. It’s due to the fact that they tend to have higher blood pressure which make them prone to heart disease. According to a 2002 study by the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, men who were classified as having the highest level of anger in response to stress were over three times more likely to develop premature heart disease when compared to men who reported lower anger responses. Additionally, angry men were over six times more likely to have a heart attack by the age of 55. With all that said, try to stay calm and collected and don’t sweat the small stuff. It could literally kill you.

9. Eat Your Antioxidants. Fruits and vegetables are a good source of antioxidants which help repair aging and damaged cells harmed by free radicals. Studies show that high levels of free radicals lead to degenerative diseases, including atherosclerosis, Alzheimer’s and cancer. Some common foods with good levels of antioxidants are: cinnamon, cloves, blueberries, artichokes, and certain type of beans.

10. Exercise. Studies show that staying physically active and exercising regularly can help prevent or delay many diseases and disabilities. Even moderate exercise and physical activity can improve the health of people who are frail or who have diseases that accompany aging. Exercise is good for your body, mind and heart. If you’re not active start today.

I hope these tips were helpful in your pursuit to a longer happier life. If you find them useful, print them out and post it on your wall to remind yourself everyday. Remember to share this information with friends. They will thank you for it.

How to Grow Old and Be Happy Doing So

Lot of retired people with lot of money living perhaps with their spouse, or living in a nursing or care facility. They seem to have everything that they worked for all their lives, yet they seem very empty and sad.Whether they were bedridden or had no other people about them at all, but there are many things one could do in life that perhaps they haven’t done. Perhaps they, too, might be able to start thinking this way, too.

Steps

1. First of all is one’s outlook on life. If circumstances get a person down, there is no way he or she can feel happy and alive. No matter how bad things get to be, there is probably some redeeming quality in what is happening.


2. Secondly, though it may be said too many times these days,that an older person needs to keep active and healthy.


3. Thirdly, eat as much as you need to to feel good.Don’t overeat.One must be careful not to gain too much weight, but be sure you enjoy what you eat, and eat healthy foods. Healthy foods are delicious, when added to one’s diet regularly.


4. Fourth, look good every day. Wear nice clothes, or as nice as you can afford. People treat you well if you wear things that are becoming and look nice and clean. Comb your hair and put on makeup if you are a woman. Take a bath every day and keep yourself clean and sparkling.


5. If you are in pain, take care of whatever ails you. If your leg hurts, find out why and take herbs or do physical therapy which will restore it to full use. See a doctor when you must, but don’t overdo the medical dependence. Read and talk to others about what they have done to relieve their aches and pains. Exercising regularly is very good for keeping aching muscles from spoiling your life.

Tips

• Some people have a problem with genetic ailments. Perhaps cancer is prevalent among family members. Perhaps cataracts or heart problems. In this case, one must take care to check on this particular weakness periodically and make sure it does not happen to you. Actually, the threat of an ailment can spur one on to do more to stay healthy. If you know that exercise is good for heart problems, you will exercise more. This will also be good for other problems that may plague you.


• If you are bored, find something to work on. Get outside the house and help someone else.
  If you find your activities limited, find things that might be possible within your limits. Reading or listening to music at concerts or other places is good fun. The trick is to apply yourself seriously to your chosen recreation.


• Remember what you wanted to do when you grew up. Did you do it? If not, do it now.

Warnings

• Be careful not to fall into a “waiting” trap, where you feel like you are waiting on the world to save you. It won’t happen. You are the only one who can do anything about your situation. If you act like it is the end of the world, it may be. But if you act like you are alive, you will attract others and life will be more worth living.


• If you don’t exercise, eat well or take care of yourself, you will become older fast. This is like giving up. You are still alive if you are reading this and you can do something about your own situation.


• So get out there and do something! Live it up! go dancing, have pets and paint pictures. There are a lot of things one can do.

Unconditional Love

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home from the war. He called his parents from San Francisco.
'Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring home with me.'
'Sure,' they replied, 'we'd love to meet him.' 'There's something you should know the son continued, 'he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg.
He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us.'
'I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live.'

'No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us.'
'Son,' said the father, 'you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own.'
At that point, the son hung up the phone.
The parents heard nothing more from him.
A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police.
Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told.
The police believed it was suicide.
The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son.
They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us.
We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable.
We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.
Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way.
Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are. Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer for the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!
There's a miracle called Friendship that dwells in the heart.
You don't know how it happens or when it gets started but you know the special lift it always brings and you realize that Friendship is a most precious gift!
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed.
They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.