TIP #8
PERCEPTION - a mental image
My Father says, "You can do all things through Him who
strengthens you."
When others look at you, what do they see? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see what others see? Probably not. There are three words that you can literally live by: "Perception is Reality". Perception is a core function of your imagination. That is, what you perceive to be true is effectively what you imagined to be true...and because you imagine it to be so, it becomes reality.
If you see a person walking towards you, that is not perception, but rather reality - you did not imagine the event - it happened.
But life is full of far more complex situations, and that is where our perception comes in. If that person walking towards you said something in a certain way, how you perceive or imagine their intentions determines how you will perceive the situation. Their tone of voice, their body language, whether they were smiling or sad, whether they were excited or taking their time, are just a few of the mental images that we instantly download into our computer(brain) helping us to "size-up" the situation, whether right or wrong.
Whether we like it or not, we make important, often life-changing decisions based on our imagination.
I see three different levels of basic perception at work here. How you perceive yourself, how your spouse and those closest family members perceive you, and how all others perceive you. Here are some things that you should consider when thinking about how others perceive you: Your lifestyle, do you smile? your speech and speech patterns that you choose to use(or that you have allowed to become part of your lifestyle), tone of voice, your body language - how you carry yourself when you walk, how you sit, how you stand - your hair and nails, are they clean? What about your shoes? Are they clean, or does it even matter? It doesn't matter if your clothes are latest fashion or 10 years old. What matters is "how" you wear them, which gives a clue to your own self-image.
It matters not whether you are very large or very thin, short or tall, educated or uneducated(by the world's standards), rich or poor, wear glasses or do not wear glasses, have massive hair or you are bald. The question is, "How do I perceive myself and how am I projecting that, from the inside out, to those around me?"
It is the heart and soul that truly moves people. Do you walk and move with charisma, charm and sophistication incorporated with humility? Look in the mirror and consider these two questions: "How do people label me?" and "How do I WANT to be labeled?" Decide, and then work on projecting that perception. You have an obligation to feel better about yourself! YOU CAN DO IT!!
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Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #7
TIP #7
REALITY - that which is truth, that which is real
My Father says, "...walk in the truth"
What is the key factor that keeps you from facing reality in your life? YOU! You are the primary force that shapes your life. True, you have challenging influences all around you, but you are the determining factor that makes the choices of how you live your life and facing truth in your life.
Because we are so wonderfully made and full of wonder, and because we are born with the weapons that we need to face life and live it to the fullest, there is the age-old question, "Why don't we?" Is it because over the years we have given over ownership of our lives, or perhaps relinquished our authority or ability to take control and walk out our lives to the fullest? Could it be that we have lost our mate or someone very dear to us that loneliness has overtaken us, and we cannot fully regain the consciousness to move on?
What is the giant in your life that laughs in your face daily, and you just can't seem to conquer it? Could it be that when people around you whisper quietly you think they are talking about you, so you immediately get offended, which causes you much internal problems? When in truth what they were discussing had absolutely nothing to do with you. Could it be that you thought more highly of yourself than you should by thinking that they were talking about you in the first place? Could it be that we are so uncomfortable with ourselves that we make everyone else around us uncomfortable as well? We become selfish and self-centered, always wanting things to go our way. We want to be in control or we won't play anymore. Sounds pretty childish when put on paper, doesn't it?
Maybe you are a sloppy housekeeper but your best friend is a glorious housekeeper. Keeps you on that inferior list, doesn't it? If you feel inferior about that, then you probably battle with inferiority in other areas of your life as well.
Maybe you battle with that green-eyed demon of jealousy. Now that one can really suck the life out of its owner. It is a very suffocating thing to be carrying around the weight of jealousy.
What about FEAR? Especially in the day in which we are living, people are living in fear of so many things which robs them of peace and rest. Today, many people are living under the weight of so much debt, and that one seems to be getting heavier. Maybe you are a grandparent who is having to shoulder the responsibility
of raising your grands simply because your son or daughter got into alcohol or drugs or some other vice, and you are now their guardian.
I haven't touched the surface of the problems many people are facing, but, whatever it is you are battling, don't you think it is time to take responsibility, FACE REALITY, do a 180 degree turn and start walking the other direction? When we face reality,
look defeat in the face and declare "enough!", ask for help from above, then our lives have a starting point to leave defeat behind and start walking in victory - one day at the time.
Keep walking forward..keep walking forward...face the challenge with a changed attitude, not a defeated one, and promise yourself that you will NEVER GIVE UP. Allow joy, peace and happiness to begin to overtake you and do not allow the enemy to defeat you again. You do this by making right choices, regardless of the challenge.
So you get knocked down. Get right back up and keep walking forward. Exercise your laughter, rise above the situation, and allow God's peace to carry you onward.
Unil our next tip...
REALITY - that which is truth, that which is real
My Father says, "...walk in the truth"
What is the key factor that keeps you from facing reality in your life? YOU! You are the primary force that shapes your life. True, you have challenging influences all around you, but you are the determining factor that makes the choices of how you live your life and facing truth in your life.
Because we are so wonderfully made and full of wonder, and because we are born with the weapons that we need to face life and live it to the fullest, there is the age-old question, "Why don't we?" Is it because over the years we have given over ownership of our lives, or perhaps relinquished our authority or ability to take control and walk out our lives to the fullest? Could it be that we have lost our mate or someone very dear to us that loneliness has overtaken us, and we cannot fully regain the consciousness to move on?
What is the giant in your life that laughs in your face daily, and you just can't seem to conquer it? Could it be that when people around you whisper quietly you think they are talking about you, so you immediately get offended, which causes you much internal problems? When in truth what they were discussing had absolutely nothing to do with you. Could it be that you thought more highly of yourself than you should by thinking that they were talking about you in the first place? Could it be that we are so uncomfortable with ourselves that we make everyone else around us uncomfortable as well? We become selfish and self-centered, always wanting things to go our way. We want to be in control or we won't play anymore. Sounds pretty childish when put on paper, doesn't it?
Maybe you are a sloppy housekeeper but your best friend is a glorious housekeeper. Keeps you on that inferior list, doesn't it? If you feel inferior about that, then you probably battle with inferiority in other areas of your life as well.
Maybe you battle with that green-eyed demon of jealousy. Now that one can really suck the life out of its owner. It is a very suffocating thing to be carrying around the weight of jealousy.
What about FEAR? Especially in the day in which we are living, people are living in fear of so many things which robs them of peace and rest. Today, many people are living under the weight of so much debt, and that one seems to be getting heavier. Maybe you are a grandparent who is having to shoulder the responsibility
of raising your grands simply because your son or daughter got into alcohol or drugs or some other vice, and you are now their guardian.
I haven't touched the surface of the problems many people are facing, but, whatever it is you are battling, don't you think it is time to take responsibility, FACE REALITY, do a 180 degree turn and start walking the other direction? When we face reality,
look defeat in the face and declare "enough!", ask for help from above, then our lives have a starting point to leave defeat behind and start walking in victory - one day at the time.
Keep walking forward..keep walking forward...face the challenge with a changed attitude, not a defeated one, and promise yourself that you will NEVER GIVE UP. Allow joy, peace and happiness to begin to overtake you and do not allow the enemy to defeat you again. You do this by making right choices, regardless of the challenge.
So you get knocked down. Get right back up and keep walking forward. Exercise your laughter, rise above the situation, and allow God's peace to carry you onward.
Unil our next tip...
Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #6
Here's TIP #6:
REALIZING MY BEST
My Father says, "He gives us more and more grace".
I am thankful from the depths of my soul that my Heavenly Father placed me in "the land of the free and the home of the brave". I am also thankful that He placed me in the family that He chose for me. Your ideas and ideals have been formed through time by the environment in which you have been surrounded.
Now, to realize your full potential and become the person that you want to be, there may be doors that you need to open, and there may be doors that you need to close. There is something that you were put on this earth to accomplish that only you can do. When you begin to realize this within, you will begin to walk in the true peace, happiness and joy that can only come from fulfilling that purpose.
Throw off those heavy weights that seem to have you bound and not moving forward. Whether they be conscious or unconscious, real or unreal, put there by someone else or put there by yourself, they need to be consciously released. You CAN do it! It may take some work to be completely rid of some of the bad traits, simply because they have been a part of your lifestyle for a long period of time. Some of these unwanted attributes could be laziness, apathy, needing attention, having to be in control, anger, loneliness, hatefulness, indecision, doubt, worry, overly cautiousness, bad attitudes, maybe you are a whiner, poor, boisterous, unwanted habits, a carousing person, etc... You can rid yourself of unwanted attributes, but ONLY if you desire it and are willing to change, whatever the cost.
If you have already told yourself "I can't" or "this is too hard", then you will never change. BUT, I know that you CAN because every normal person has the power within to change when coupled with desire. It is possible, BUT, you must decide what is right for you and what will make you the happiest. Only you can unlock your inner potential.
You can fulfill your innermost dreams by doing something that you really love to do. Establish one key goal that you want to see accomplished. Every day work on developing that quality, without stopping, until you have it fine-tuned to the point that it becomes a part of your lifestyle. You need to develop an unshakable level of self-confidence that makes you totally unstoppable. You will begin to see your personality changing into that beautiful possibility that you desire to become.
Lean on the strength that comes from above and you will have all the help you could need to accomplish your goals and see positive end results. Learn to enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, determine to be happy, and stay away from people who are continually unhappy.
Sharing your life with others will make your life richer and more fulfilling, and will definitely give you challenges while seeing your aspirations accomplished. Keep a positive attitude, make right choices, exercise your laughter, and be at peace with yourself and God. Work on strengthening your self-discipline and use that to help achieve your goals. Doing these things will help you become a better, stronger and more powerful human being.
When you cast off the bonds of helplessness, you will begin to feel that there is nothing in the world that you can't do or become. Make a choice to be the best that you can be for the rest of your life. Live today as if there is no tomorrow and BE YOUR BEST!!
REALIZING MY BEST
My Father says, "He gives us more and more grace".
I am thankful from the depths of my soul that my Heavenly Father placed me in "the land of the free and the home of the brave". I am also thankful that He placed me in the family that He chose for me. Your ideas and ideals have been formed through time by the environment in which you have been surrounded.
Now, to realize your full potential and become the person that you want to be, there may be doors that you need to open, and there may be doors that you need to close. There is something that you were put on this earth to accomplish that only you can do. When you begin to realize this within, you will begin to walk in the true peace, happiness and joy that can only come from fulfilling that purpose.
Throw off those heavy weights that seem to have you bound and not moving forward. Whether they be conscious or unconscious, real or unreal, put there by someone else or put there by yourself, they need to be consciously released. You CAN do it! It may take some work to be completely rid of some of the bad traits, simply because they have been a part of your lifestyle for a long period of time. Some of these unwanted attributes could be laziness, apathy, needing attention, having to be in control, anger, loneliness, hatefulness, indecision, doubt, worry, overly cautiousness, bad attitudes, maybe you are a whiner, poor, boisterous, unwanted habits, a carousing person, etc... You can rid yourself of unwanted attributes, but ONLY if you desire it and are willing to change, whatever the cost.
If you have already told yourself "I can't" or "this is too hard", then you will never change. BUT, I know that you CAN because every normal person has the power within to change when coupled with desire. It is possible, BUT, you must decide what is right for you and what will make you the happiest. Only you can unlock your inner potential.
You can fulfill your innermost dreams by doing something that you really love to do. Establish one key goal that you want to see accomplished. Every day work on developing that quality, without stopping, until you have it fine-tuned to the point that it becomes a part of your lifestyle. You need to develop an unshakable level of self-confidence that makes you totally unstoppable. You will begin to see your personality changing into that beautiful possibility that you desire to become.
Lean on the strength that comes from above and you will have all the help you could need to accomplish your goals and see positive end results. Learn to enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, determine to be happy, and stay away from people who are continually unhappy.
Sharing your life with others will make your life richer and more fulfilling, and will definitely give you challenges while seeing your aspirations accomplished. Keep a positive attitude, make right choices, exercise your laughter, and be at peace with yourself and God. Work on strengthening your self-discipline and use that to help achieve your goals. Doing these things will help you become a better, stronger and more powerful human being.
When you cast off the bonds of helplessness, you will begin to feel that there is nothing in the world that you can't do or become. Make a choice to be the best that you can be for the rest of your life. Live today as if there is no tomorrow and BE YOUR BEST!!
Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #5
Here's TIP #5
LOVING OURSELVES - Do I even like myself?
My Father says, "love never fails".
The most important factor in determining the fullness of your life is how YOU perceive yourself, and whether or not you like yourself. If you want to change something in you life, YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF. Why? you may ask, is it so important to love yourself? If you love yourself you can love others. If you love yourself your self-esteem and self-acceptance grows. Loving yourself is the most important asset that you have in life. This doesn't mean that you are arrogant, pompous and without humble feelings. If you love yourself you will not reject yourself, nor will others. If they do, it will not matter to you because you will have the self-confidence to keep going forward knowing that you are a winner.
We all have this human nature tendency to want others to accept us, rather than reject us. When we love and accept ourselves for who we are, what others say about us, or when they reject us, may be a bump in our road, but we keep going forward and go on with our lives in the positive mode.
Strangely enough, many people do not love themselves, and most don't even like themselves. Many people have bought into the lie that they will never be good enough - good enough for what? So, how can they possibly like themselves, much less, love themselves? And then, how could they expect someone else to love them if they can't even love themselves?
If we tend to continually judge ourselves against externals(or others), we will always fall short. When we put water and oil in a container together, the oil will rise to the top. Just as the oil rises to the top, we need to challenge ourselves and "stir up our pot" (so to speak) to allow those wonderfully good qualities within to "rise" to the top and, and let go of the bad habits or attitudes that have ruled over us for too long.
Everything begins with love. Loving ourselves affects our attitude, the choices we make in life, our happiness, peace and joy, our self-acceptance, and the importance of who we are. Letting go of the past and learning to love ourselves will make us more compassionate, and we will enjoy life more. If you have love for yourself, you will have love for others as well. Stop grumbling and finding excuses not to love yourself because, fortunately, you CAN learn to love yourself.
Look around you and see all the marvelous things that you have been blessed with that together create the potential to enable you to experience wonderful things. Look beyond the faults of the people in your life and seek out the beauty inside of each and every one of them. You have heard the old saying "beauty is only skin deep". This is a true saying, for real beauty comes from the heart. Outward beauty will fail us, but we can begin developing that beauty that is within by learning to love ourselves and developing the greatness, kindness, gentleness, sweetness and love that is within us, longing to be released.
As you learn to love yourself, healing and life energy will take place within you.
Your opinion of yourself is more important that what others think of you. Happy people like themselves and are comfortable being themselves. Learning to love yourself is one of the best things you can ever do to totally transform every aspect of your life. It really is OK to love yourself.
LOVING OURSELVES - Do I even like myself?
My Father says, "love never fails".
The most important factor in determining the fullness of your life is how YOU perceive yourself, and whether or not you like yourself. If you want to change something in you life, YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF. Why? you may ask, is it so important to love yourself? If you love yourself you can love others. If you love yourself your self-esteem and self-acceptance grows. Loving yourself is the most important asset that you have in life. This doesn't mean that you are arrogant, pompous and without humble feelings. If you love yourself you will not reject yourself, nor will others. If they do, it will not matter to you because you will have the self-confidence to keep going forward knowing that you are a winner.
We all have this human nature tendency to want others to accept us, rather than reject us. When we love and accept ourselves for who we are, what others say about us, or when they reject us, may be a bump in our road, but we keep going forward and go on with our lives in the positive mode.
Strangely enough, many people do not love themselves, and most don't even like themselves. Many people have bought into the lie that they will never be good enough - good enough for what? So, how can they possibly like themselves, much less, love themselves? And then, how could they expect someone else to love them if they can't even love themselves?
If we tend to continually judge ourselves against externals(or others), we will always fall short. When we put water and oil in a container together, the oil will rise to the top. Just as the oil rises to the top, we need to challenge ourselves and "stir up our pot" (so to speak) to allow those wonderfully good qualities within to "rise" to the top and, and let go of the bad habits or attitudes that have ruled over us for too long.
Everything begins with love. Loving ourselves affects our attitude, the choices we make in life, our happiness, peace and joy, our self-acceptance, and the importance of who we are. Letting go of the past and learning to love ourselves will make us more compassionate, and we will enjoy life more. If you have love for yourself, you will have love for others as well. Stop grumbling and finding excuses not to love yourself because, fortunately, you CAN learn to love yourself.
Look around you and see all the marvelous things that you have been blessed with that together create the potential to enable you to experience wonderful things. Look beyond the faults of the people in your life and seek out the beauty inside of each and every one of them. You have heard the old saying "beauty is only skin deep". This is a true saying, for real beauty comes from the heart. Outward beauty will fail us, but we can begin developing that beauty that is within by learning to love ourselves and developing the greatness, kindness, gentleness, sweetness and love that is within us, longing to be released.
As you learn to love yourself, healing and life energy will take place within you.
Your opinion of yourself is more important that what others think of you. Happy people like themselves and are comfortable being themselves. Learning to love yourself is one of the best things you can ever do to totally transform every aspect of your life. It really is OK to love yourself.
Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #4:
SELF-ACCEPTANCE
My Father says, "You are fearfully and wonderfully made!"
As we are looking deep within ourselves, let us ask ourselves this question, "Do I like who I am? Do I really love whom I was created to be?" It is so important to accept the truth about your emotions and how you perceive your life. Our thoughts and attitudes create our emotions, which in turn includes self-acceptance, self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, and other attributes.
My way of thinking about who I am either allows me to live in a positive world or a negative world, and this by MY choice. Where I hang my hat today all depends upon me.
There are many factors in your past that have helped you form the opinion that you have of yourself today. For example, you may have a family member that was always telling you that you were not good enough, or you were stupid, or you could not do this or achieve that; therefore, over time you came to believe these things were true about yourself. Or,on the other hand, this same family member, instead of tearing down your self-esteem, was daily building you up by telling you how smart or how wonderful and beautiful you are, or encouraging you with the words, "you can do it!" These are two extremes, but so prevalent in this day and time.
We need to realize that our mental response is a very powerful tool. If we cannot change something, we can change the way that we think about it. You cannot change your past or the family into which you were born, but, you do have the power to accept the reality that you were truly "fearfully and wonderfully made". You need to open the door to reality, step over the threshold of uncertainty, and allow your soul to soar out into the beautiful world that God created for you to so richly enjoy. Destroy that demon of FEAR and GO!! By accepting reality you are taking responsibility for your life. Accept yourself right where you are and start climbing! Yes, there will be battles, but you CAN do it!
Acceptance gives us a feeling of dealing with the situation and we gain control over our lives once again. The only person who is in charge of your feelings and emotions is you. Many times we like to make ourselves feel better by putting blame on others, when in reality, we are where we are because of the choices that we have made.
Many people, despite a sincere attempt to change, give up trying and return to their old ways. The main reason was they expected to see changes overnight, expecting too much, too soon. Remember, we did not get to this point overnight; therefore, we must give ourselves time and accept our small achievements today.
Let us stand tall, look Truth in the face - not fear, realize the beauty that is within us, and perservere with a happy attitude with the thought that "I really CAN do it!! I know who I am and only I have the ability to change and accept the person within me."
Only YOU have the power to metamorphose into that beautiful butterfly that you long to become, and with the help of the Father, YOU REALLY CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN!
My Father says, "You are fearfully and wonderfully made!"
As we are looking deep within ourselves, let us ask ourselves this question, "Do I like who I am? Do I really love whom I was created to be?" It is so important to accept the truth about your emotions and how you perceive your life. Our thoughts and attitudes create our emotions, which in turn includes self-acceptance, self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, and other attributes.
My way of thinking about who I am either allows me to live in a positive world or a negative world, and this by MY choice. Where I hang my hat today all depends upon me.
There are many factors in your past that have helped you form the opinion that you have of yourself today. For example, you may have a family member that was always telling you that you were not good enough, or you were stupid, or you could not do this or achieve that; therefore, over time you came to believe these things were true about yourself. Or,on the other hand, this same family member, instead of tearing down your self-esteem, was daily building you up by telling you how smart or how wonderful and beautiful you are, or encouraging you with the words, "you can do it!" These are two extremes, but so prevalent in this day and time.
We need to realize that our mental response is a very powerful tool. If we cannot change something, we can change the way that we think about it. You cannot change your past or the family into which you were born, but, you do have the power to accept the reality that you were truly "fearfully and wonderfully made". You need to open the door to reality, step over the threshold of uncertainty, and allow your soul to soar out into the beautiful world that God created for you to so richly enjoy. Destroy that demon of FEAR and GO!! By accepting reality you are taking responsibility for your life. Accept yourself right where you are and start climbing! Yes, there will be battles, but you CAN do it!
Acceptance gives us a feeling of dealing with the situation and we gain control over our lives once again. The only person who is in charge of your feelings and emotions is you. Many times we like to make ourselves feel better by putting blame on others, when in reality, we are where we are because of the choices that we have made.
Many people, despite a sincere attempt to change, give up trying and return to their old ways. The main reason was they expected to see changes overnight, expecting too much, too soon. Remember, we did not get to this point overnight; therefore, we must give ourselves time and accept our small achievements today.
Let us stand tall, look Truth in the face - not fear, realize the beauty that is within us, and perservere with a happy attitude with the thought that "I really CAN do it!! I know who I am and only I have the ability to change and accept the person within me."
Only YOU have the power to metamorphose into that beautiful butterfly that you long to become, and with the help of the Father, YOU REALLY CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN!
Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #3
HAPPINESS - a state of well-being and contentment
My Father says, "...no one can take from you your joy"
Happiness is a state of well-being in which we are free from fear, resentment, anger, hostility, or forms of suffering. To achieve this happiness we must first be willing to change some areas of our behavior and expect changed results. We now know that WE control our attitude and the choices that we make in life, so, we now need to possibly adjust some areas in our lives that will bring us the peace and happiness that we so want and deserve.
Maybe you have heard it said "a happy heart does good like a medicine", or "laughter is the best medicine". I know these are true words from my own experiences. Laughter can be healing. Maybe you are one who is consistently happy, except for those rare occasions when tragedy comes to you or your loved ones. Or, maybe you are one of the millions who are so focused on just getting through the day, that periods of happiness and peace are far too seldom. Happiness is one of the things most desired by adults, yet for many, remains so elusive. Enjoying greater happiness is another choice that we make. We can choose to be happy
Have you ever been in a group of people when something was said or happened that made everyone hysterical with laughter, that is, all but one individual? That particular person either got mad or sulked in their disposition. By choice, they were hurting themselves and possibly put a damper on others.
Pay attention to this truth - your face tells the world much about who you are. It is true that "the eyes are the windows of the soul". A smile generates a warmth to others that brings a comfortable, happy feeling. One smiling face can change the atmosphere of an otherwise gloomy place.
Clearly, people want to associate themselves with others who have found the keys to happiness and delight. Wouldn't you prefer to be around someone who is happy and upbeat rather than someone who is always gloomy and wanting to vomit their problems upon you?
Radiant happiness is a choice, as is true inner peace. That which I know of this peace can only be found in one place, and that is in knowing the Creator who created you and put you here for a purpose. Only He can give the fulfillment of this inner peace. Without this peace, your pursuit of happiness is likely to be centered on the pursuit of pleasure, as opposed to real, continuous happiness. We are living in a world that is addicted to pleasure and is depriving itself of pure happiness. This short-term feeling of delight cannot fulfill the deep inner need for true peace and happiness called contentment.
Let us learn to enjoy the awesome beauty that surrounds us and exercise our laughter. It is true that laughter is catching! Happiness, too, is a choice. Make the choice to be happy for the rest of your life!
Surely hope you are gleaning nuggets of gold from this TIPS.
I'll be sharing more tips with you in a few days...catch you then!
My Father says, "...no one can take from you your joy"
Happiness is a state of well-being in which we are free from fear, resentment, anger, hostility, or forms of suffering. To achieve this happiness we must first be willing to change some areas of our behavior and expect changed results. We now know that WE control our attitude and the choices that we make in life, so, we now need to possibly adjust some areas in our lives that will bring us the peace and happiness that we so want and deserve.
Maybe you have heard it said "a happy heart does good like a medicine", or "laughter is the best medicine". I know these are true words from my own experiences. Laughter can be healing. Maybe you are one who is consistently happy, except for those rare occasions when tragedy comes to you or your loved ones. Or, maybe you are one of the millions who are so focused on just getting through the day, that periods of happiness and peace are far too seldom. Happiness is one of the things most desired by adults, yet for many, remains so elusive. Enjoying greater happiness is another choice that we make. We can choose to be happy
Have you ever been in a group of people when something was said or happened that made everyone hysterical with laughter, that is, all but one individual? That particular person either got mad or sulked in their disposition. By choice, they were hurting themselves and possibly put a damper on others.
Pay attention to this truth - your face tells the world much about who you are. It is true that "the eyes are the windows of the soul". A smile generates a warmth to others that brings a comfortable, happy feeling. One smiling face can change the atmosphere of an otherwise gloomy place.
Clearly, people want to associate themselves with others who have found the keys to happiness and delight. Wouldn't you prefer to be around someone who is happy and upbeat rather than someone who is always gloomy and wanting to vomit their problems upon you?
Radiant happiness is a choice, as is true inner peace. That which I know of this peace can only be found in one place, and that is in knowing the Creator who created you and put you here for a purpose. Only He can give the fulfillment of this inner peace. Without this peace, your pursuit of happiness is likely to be centered on the pursuit of pleasure, as opposed to real, continuous happiness. We are living in a world that is addicted to pleasure and is depriving itself of pure happiness. This short-term feeling of delight cannot fulfill the deep inner need for true peace and happiness called contentment.
Let us learn to enjoy the awesome beauty that surrounds us and exercise our laughter. It is true that laughter is catching! Happiness, too, is a choice. Make the choice to be happy for the rest of your life!
Surely hope you are gleaning nuggets of gold from this TIPS.
I'll be sharing more tips with you in a few days...catch you then!
The Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman
1. A confident & secure woman REPOSITIONS HERSELF
A confident woman never forgets the one thing that never changes –THINGS CONSTANTLY CHANGE. With the winds of change ever blowing, a secure woman realizes that she may not currently possess all the tools that will take her to her goal, but she’s always ready to learn what she needs to know in order to get there. This may mean going back to school, changing job or vocations or even moving to a different location, but she is ready, willing and able to adapt to changing circumstances.
2. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE
A confident woman understands that the gift is in the giving. She knows the laws that tell her what she gives will return to her several times over. She will give her time, energy and even her heart to those who need her. However, she also knows that she is not a super human and she does not over-extend herself. She regularly takes time for herself! She also recognizes that she has limits and, at times, finds herself in a position of needing assistance and is not afraid to ask for what she needs.
3. A confident & secure woman LIVES IN THE PRESENT
Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is the bread of idleness that a confident woman refuses to eat. When recalling the past, she does not allow herself to dwell there but, rather, refocuses on the here and now. She understands that her past experiences, whether joyful or painful, are a part of her and have made her the confident person that she is today. She learns from the past and uses that information for current decision making. She has hopes for the future and engages in the occasional daydream while keeping herself solidly in the present tense of her life.
4. A confident & secure woman KEEPS HERE EYE ON THE PRIZE
Not everything we do comes up roses. To expect perfection is cavalier, but to know that mistakes are a part of the journey is wisdom. This knowledge allows the confident woman to refuse to pity herself when something doesn’t turn out as she’d hoped or expected it would.
5. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO SAY NO
Women have too little time and too much responsibility. The demands of jobs, child care, household duties, etc. are often draining. Having time to herself seems to be a far-fetched dream for many women. The confident woman knows her limits and her need for self care. She understands that in order to be able to accomplish all that she wants/needs to do, she MUST have adequate energy reserves from which to draw. While sympathetic and even flattered when her phone rings off the hook with others making requests of her, she is able to pick and choose those people or causes to which/whom she will devote her time and energy. She knows when she needs to politely decline so that she will have time to recharge herself or to ward off becoming overwhelmed. She also does not feel a need to offer apologies or excuses for needing to do so.
6. A confident & secure woman TRUSTS HER INNER VOICE
While she may occasionally feel uncertain or seek the counsel of others, the confident woman knows deep down that her own heart will give her the direction she needs. While this intuition may be said to be a characteristic of all women, it is one that becomes refined only with age, wisdom and experience. The secure woman will carefully consider all the information at her disposal, seek advice from those she respects and then turn to that little voice inside of herself and become her own best counsel.
7. A confident & secure woman DOESN’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
If we allow ourselves to think too much about something or consider every little thing that could possibly come up or go awry, we can soon make mountains out of molehills. The secure woman is able to separate the chaff from the grain and focus only on those things of primary concern to her in any situation. She does not micro manage herself or her affairs. Rather, she focuses on the broader picture along with the key ingredients that are needed to solve her problem or reach her goal. She possesses inner strength and the wisdom to be able to create, change and adapt as necessary
The Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman by Scott Smallwood
Heart Touching...
I was a just-born and she was Twenty-Five,
Though we were we, we were one.
I would cry out in Latin and she would respond in Greek,
I would learn nothing but she never got tired to teach.
Though we were we, we were one.
I would cry out in Latin and she would respond in Greek,
I would learn nothing but she never got tired to teach.
I was surrounded by monsters eager to pull my cheek,
but they would vanish the moment I was wet and weep.
She would come running and hold me in her arms,
as if I had won the contest of the charms.
Now I was able to walk and chew,
and hey, I was two.
I and she could now understand each other,
I was her everything and she needed no other.
I and she could now understand each other,
I was her everything and she needed no other.
I would try to walk and fall down,
But knowing she was with me,
the fear of getting hurt was now gone.
We still could not converse that effectively,
But she would understand my needs so easily.
I could now roam about free,
because now I have turned three.
I was ready to join a new world,
my academic life was now gonna mould.
She would dress me as best as a prince,
but when I would come back,
she would need at least an hour to rinse.
I was now able to talk,
I was a ferry and she was my dock.
I still remember the child, whose shirt I had tore,
Hey buddy, I have turned four.
I now came home a little late,
Nevertheless finding her waiting at the gate.
She would hug me and carry me in her arms,
it felt like flying through the farms.
We now did the homework together,
I would spoil the home and she used to work.
Years passed and now I was fifteen,
and with each year I would forget to lean.
I wouldn't care for what she said,
because now I had become mean.
She would ask me to study for a good future,
but I was busy in a different culture.
Now I had many shes in my life,
I dreamed of having one of them as my wife.
I changed a lot which she did not teach,
She would try to hug me but I was out of reach.
She still waited for me at the gate,
but I would look at her with utmost hate.
She would be awake till late in the night,
because I wasn't home, I was in a fight.
She had so much to scold, but she never did say,
hoping to find me better the next day.
Time went on and now I am grown,
lost in the world of my own.
I and she, between us have a river,
I have left her for my career.
When I was young, for me, she sacrificed her ambitions,
but I don't care, I now have my own mission.
I am not with her now, I am in a different city,
she is so old now but I don't even pity.
She needs me now but I am nowhere to find,
in the race for appraisal, I have become blind.
In a few years from now, I will be two,
there will be in my life someone new.
Then I'll forget even to bother,
I am her son and she is my Mother.
Go someone is still waiting for you
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