Keys to Successful Winning Relationships TIP #5

Here's TIP #5

LOVING OURSELVES - Do I even like myself?

My Father says, "love never fails".
The most important factor in determining the fullness of your life is how YOU perceive yourself, and whether or not you like yourself. If you want to change something in you life, YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF. Why? you may ask, is it so important to love yourself? If you love yourself you can love others. If you love yourself your self-esteem and self-acceptance grows. Loving yourself is the most important asset that you have in life. This doesn't mean that you are arrogant, pompous and without humble feelings. If you love yourself you will not reject yourself, nor will others. If they do, it will not matter to you because you will have the self-confidence to keep going forward knowing that you are a winner.

We all have this human nature tendency to want others to accept us, rather than reject us. When we love and accept ourselves for who we are, what others say about us, or when they reject us, may be a bump in our road, but we keep going forward and go on with our lives in the positive mode.

Strangely enough, many people do not love themselves, and most don't even like themselves. Many people have bought into the lie that they will never be good enough - good enough for what? So, how can they possibly like themselves, much less, love themselves? And then, how could they expect someone else to love them if they can't even love themselves?

If we tend to continually judge ourselves against externals(or others), we will always fall short. When we put water and oil in a container together, the oil will rise to the top. Just as the oil rises to the top, we need to challenge ourselves and "stir up our pot" (so to speak) to allow those wonderfully good qualities within to "rise" to the top and, and let go of the bad habits or attitudes that have ruled over us for too long.

Everything begins with love. Loving ourselves affects our attitude, the choices we make in life, our happiness, peace and joy, our self-acceptance, and the importance of who we are. Letting go of the past and learning to love ourselves will make us more compassionate, and we will enjoy life more. If you have love for yourself, you will have love for others as well. Stop grumbling and finding excuses not to love yourself because, fortunately, you CAN learn to love yourself.

Look around you and see all the marvelous things that you have been blessed with that together create the potential to enable you to experience wonderful things. Look beyond the faults of the people in your life and seek out the beauty inside of each and every one of them. You have heard the old saying "beauty is only skin deep". This is a true saying, for real beauty comes from the heart. Outward beauty will fail us, but we can begin developing that beauty that is within by learning to love ourselves and developing the greatness, kindness, gentleness, sweetness and love that is within us, longing to be released.

As you learn to love yourself, healing and life energy will take place within you.
Your opinion of yourself is more important that what others think of you. Happy people like themselves and are comfortable being themselves. Learning to love yourself is one of the best things you can ever do to totally transform every aspect of your life. It really is OK to love yourself.